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What Humility Teaches Us

“I am not perfect.” – I’m not perfect, I’ve made mistakes in the past and I will make mistakes in the future. There will always be some things I want to change about myself. I’m a never-ending project.
“I don’t know everything.” – I’m not as smart as I think I am. I often overestimate how much I know about a particular subject, and it’s important for me to accept the wisdom of ignorance.

“My feelings don’t always serve me.” – When I accept my “flawed self,” I accept that sometimes I need to fight against my natural desires and impulses when they don’t serve my best interests. My emotions can sometimes misguide me.

“I accept my weaknesses.” – Like everyone else, I have both strengths and weaknesses. By ignoring my weaknesses, I only make myself more susceptible to give into them and repeat them. I need to accept my weaknesses before I can begin working on them.



“It’s okay to seek help outside myself.” – When I accept my flaws and limitations, I recognize that sometimes I need to seek help outside of myself to get past difficult times in my life. I shouldn’t feel ashamed when I need to ask other people for help or assistance.

“I don’t need to prove myself all the time.” – When I cultivate humility, I’m less motivated to “prove myself” to others all the time. Instead I’m comfortable accepting my flaws and weaknesses, because I understand they are part of being human.

“I play a small role in a much bigger picture.” – Life is bigger than just “me.” My life is a product of many years of evolution, culture, relationships, and tradition. To live my life fully means I acknowledge that I play a small role in a much bigger picture.

Via Sharrock, Mark E. Deschaine, PhD

When you experience rejection, it’s natural to take certain measures in order to preserve your self- esteem, like trying to fit in with a social group and gain their approval. However, research has shown that people who view themselves as independent may be somewhat immune to the negative effects of rejection, and may even use social rejection as creative fuel.

 

Sharon Kim and her colleagues, who conducted the study, hypothesized that these boosts in creativity were fueled by a differentiation mind- set, or as they put it, “salient feelings of being different from others.” Independent people not only may be resistant to the negative consequences of rejection but indeed may be strengthened by experiences that reaffirm their sense of independence. As Kim puts it, “Independent selves are motivated to remain distinctly separate from others.” This motivation may, in turn, trigger psychological processes that boost creative thinking. Rejection is not just a catalyst for creativity—it can also be a by-product of it. As the study’s authors write, “The very traits that distinguish highly creative people, such as unconventionality, make them easy targets for rejection.”

 

Learn more / En savoir plus / Mehr erfahren:

 

http://www.scoop.it/t/21st-century-learning-and-teaching/?tag=Creativity

 

https://gustmees.wordpress.com/?s=creativity

 

http://www.scoop.it/t/21st-century-learning-and-teaching/?tag=Sir+Ken+Robinson

 

Via Gust MEES, Mark E. Deschaine, PhD

Need a rapid-fire self-esteem boost in the next five minutes? While we all know that true inner confidence takes time and practice, sometimes we just need something with immediate effects. Here are seven ways to instantly build your confidence that you can use anytime, anyplace.

 

1. Pay attention to your posture

Stand or sit up straight. Flatten out your lower back. Let your shoulders fall down broadly by your sides. Even if you don't have enough time to change anything else about your appearance, shifting your posture is enough to make a huge difference.

 

2. Smile

Our brains are wired in an interesting feedback cycle that allows us to tell our muscles what to do--but it's also a cycle that reacts based on what our muscles actually do themselves. If we do something that is associated with an emotion, the action itself will somehow trigger the same emotion in our brains.

3. Give yourself a pep talk 

Pep talks can feel forced, especially if you're giving one to yourself. There is, however, a method to the madness: Telling yourself you're great is an easy way to remind yourself you are. Go through some of the positive qualities you value most about who you are. You'll feel like a million bucks in a couple seconds.

Via The Learning Factor