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"Charismatic people can convey all kinds of emotional content, but what they do is they make you listen," says Ruth Sherman, a Connecticut-based celebrity speech and media coach. "They’re interesting enough regardless of what they’re saying, so you perk up and listen.

1. Show Vulnerability

Take a cue from Lawrence’s embarrassing Oscar moment: Vulnerability makes us all look more human. At work, this can mean sharing business struggles that help people identify with you. But it doesn’t mean sitting around complaining about your job; it means occasionally sharing a work story that’s not about success. "Great leaders will often reveal where they struggled in business, a time they got fired, what makes them vulnerable," Sherman says. "It happens to everybody."

At first, euphemisms surfaced in the workplace to help people deal with touchy subjects that were difficult to talk about. Before long, they morphed into corporate buzzwords that expanded and took over our vocabulary until our everyday conversations started sounding like they were taking place on another plane.

I understand the temptation. These catchphrases are spicy and they make you feel clever (low-hanging fruit is a crutch of mine), but they also annoy the hell out of people.

If you think that you can use these phrases without consequence, you're kidding yourself. Just pay close attention to how other people react to your using them, and you'll see that these phrases don't cast you in a favorable light.

It's party season. After that comes conference season, and then summer workshop season, then another conference season, and then party season again. At all these events, as well as many occasions in-between, you're going to meet, or spy across the room, someone you really want to talk to. Only you won't be quite sure how to start the conversation. 

Starting a conversation with a stranger can be daunting, but it really isn't that hard. There are really only three rules: Be pleasant and upbeat; be open and straightforward; and say something the other person will want to hear. 

With that in mind, here's are some conversation starters guaranteed to get things rolling. After that, it's up to you.

When you deliver a presentation, your body language is important for one over-riding reason: it creates an instant visual first impression that answers a big question for your audience: "Can I trust this person?"

Until now, science has not been able to isolate the specific physical cues that could cause us to not be trusted. But thanks to Dr. David DeSteno, a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, we now know what gestures can undermine the perception of our trustworthiness.

Dr. DeSteno devised a study in which participants played a cooperative economic game. Half played face-to-face, and half played over the internet. And those who played face-to-face were videotaped from three camera angles.